Every trainwreck starts with a first date. I don't get nervous about first dates anymore.
- SuperJail Warden
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Sorry to hear it didn't work out mac and hope you're not feeling too down.SuperJail Warden wrote:
I am not perfect and I realize I sent this girl on an emotional rollercoaster. I didn't understand how my actions affected her. And I took her emotions for granted. I learned important lessons and I will do better next time.
I did enjoy having a monogamous relationship for as long as it lasted. That is definitely something I would want again with a different person.
I am not angry at her or anything. I wish her the best. I am grateful to her for the opportunity to practice being in a relationship with someone. I am sorry I turned her into a puddle and I spent like 12 hours yesterday on the phone with her while she was laid up in bed depressed.
I DID NOT reactivate my dating apps. I want to just be single and work on myself until spring maybe summer. I have some graduate stuff I needed to do. When spring rolls back around, I am not going to be weird about getting as much as I can. I was sad yesterday when I didn't get a 'Good morning' text from her.
We had some fundamental differences in life and if she or anyone else said I used this as an opportunity to break up with her while also loading her with the blame for it I wouldn't debate it.
I only skimmed over the last few pages but this sounds like a pretty healthy attitude (apart from the 12 hour phone call).
Focus on the positives
Onwards and upwards LarssenLarssen wrote:
I don't have social media so no issues there. Date #1 is down and brother did I get catfished lmao. She was a good looking girl but didnt resemble her pictures at all.
This was actually my first online date ever haha. God the first 5 minutes of this stuff are awkward as fuck
If you've not found anyone you like in your current dating line up I highly recommend Hinge for good quality matches.
hinge > bumble > okcupid > tinder.
there are some better apps/services beyond hinge but they become increasingly expensive and kinda tryhard. 'elite networks' and 'high net worth' type apps. or even things like guardian dating were good, back in its hey-day, for meeting people who had at least 1.5 degrees and knew the difference between salman rushdie and a salmagundi.
tinder is lumpenproletariat trash. and i imagine facebook dating is too. macbeth is, i am low-key certain, dating 3/10s on the regular to 'build up confidence'. do not use these apps and be skeptical of his encouragement, larssen.
there are some better apps/services beyond hinge but they become increasingly expensive and kinda tryhard. 'elite networks' and 'high net worth' type apps. or even things like guardian dating were good, back in its hey-day, for meeting people who had at least 1.5 degrees and knew the difference between salman rushdie and a salmagundi.
tinder is lumpenproletariat trash. and i imagine facebook dating is too. macbeth is, i am low-key certain, dating 3/10s on the regular to 'build up confidence'. do not use these apps and be skeptical of his encouragement, larssen.
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I think you moved to Korea to play internet dating on easy mode. Didn't you pick that place because they like the shape of your face?uziq wrote:
macbeth is, i am low-key certain, dating 3/10s on the regular to 'build up confidence'.
lmao i had no idea about korea's 'face shape' preferences when i was living in bristol, UK. the aesthetic standards of a place 10,000km away wasn't on my radar, believe it or not.
i never struggled in my dating life in the UK. you, on the other hand, resemble a person who recently graduated high-school and has just discovered the feminine sex. your recent dalliances are incredibly callow.
i never struggled in my dating life in the UK. you, on the other hand, resemble a person who recently graduated high-school and has just discovered the feminine sex. your recent dalliances are incredibly callow.
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Your dating life in the U.K. included a domestic violence incident.
So did plenty of women who got merc'd by their husbands.Uzique wrote:
I made friends with the girl afterward.
i was 19. you're in your 30s and you're not behaving any differently. you're really owning yourself in this thread.
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Once an abusers always an abuser.
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you've deleted as many posts as you've committed to leaving public on this forum in the last 6 months, lmao.SuperJail Warden wrote:
Once an abusers always an abuser.
you're having a mental episode and vowing to see a therapist or confess all to a priest every week.
maybe don't try and argue the 'you're a manipulative abuser' line all of 3 days after reporting that you reduced a girl to tears and suicide threats on the phone.
what did i say that was so objectionable? tinder (and facebook dating) objectively are the lowest tier of dating app user, it's just a sociological fact. i'm sure this could be backed up with actual demographics about their user bases. tinder just by default, as it's one of the oldest major apps, suffers a lot from the fact that the regular users on there now have a 'left behind' vibe. all the hot young things migrated to bumble -> hinge.
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I can't even discuss what you did to that poor woman with a knife to the people I care about. They will ask "why are you still friends with him? He hurts women." And I will respond "he keeps me updated on Elon Musk."
i'm afraid you've overshared far too much here to get at me with that line of attack. i've certainly never made a girl threaten to take her own life, in any circumstances, drug-induced meltdown or no. you need to work on your christian humility.
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Yeah okay. You just know Dilbert will keep records of the way you mistreated women if you share your sex tourism.
ah, yes, the serial prostitute buyer accuses a person living abroad as a 'sex tourist'. a crushing blow.
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I miss Uzique ðŸ˜
So the Indonesian girl I am sleeping with now first went out with me in October but told me it wasn't going to work out after the first date. In a moment of weakness I messaged her earlier this month and she went for it this time.
She told me the second time we tried going out that "I will be honest with you. When I first dated you my ex boyfriend was still living with me. We didn't sleep together. We didn't have sex in 4 years. He just moved out." She still did chores etc. for him though.
That was a pretty shitty thing to do to her ex boyfriend she was living with? It certainly doesn't justify my actions but she isn't a saint either right?
Also the ex was a Trump supporter. Which is funny to me.
So the Indonesian girl I am sleeping with now first went out with me in October but told me it wasn't going to work out after the first date. In a moment of weakness I messaged her earlier this month and she went for it this time.
She told me the second time we tried going out that "I will be honest with you. When I first dated you my ex boyfriend was still living with me. We didn't sleep together. We didn't have sex in 4 years. He just moved out." She still did chores etc. for him though.
That was a pretty shitty thing to do to her ex boyfriend she was living with? It certainly doesn't justify my actions but she isn't a saint either right?
Also the ex was a Trump supporter. Which is funny to me.
Weren't you hiding like two other women you were going out with. How could you possibly feel stabbed in the back by the reveal that she had a roommate.
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I am not hurt or offended at all. I am just wondering if she did deceitful stuff to her ex and me. Not that that would make anything I did to her okay but you know circle of life and all.
good morningRTHKI wrote:
I miss my good morning texts from adams.
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Sleeping with or chatting with 5 girls
Chinese girlfriend
Indonesian side chick
Guatemalan hook up
Egyptian substitute teacher.
I messaged a Polish girl I hooked up with months ago. We started chatting again too.
It is all too much to manage. On the phone with one, and a different one calls.
"Hold on one second my mom is calling. I will call you back."
"Hey! How are you?"
"I am good. Who are you on the phone with?"
"My mom."
"You are talking to your mom at 1 in the morning?"
"Yes, she lives alone and is lonely."
I bought a Hinge subscription and got 6 matches in a day. I matched with and am chatting with a Vietnamese girl too.
This is all so exhausting
Chinese girlfriend
Indonesian side chick
Guatemalan hook up
Egyptian substitute teacher.
I messaged a Polish girl I hooked up with months ago. We started chatting again too.
It is all too much to manage. On the phone with one, and a different one calls.
"Hold on one second my mom is calling. I will call you back."
"Hey! How are you?"
"I am good. Who are you on the phone with?"
"My mom."
"You are talking to your mom at 1 in the morning?"
"Yes, she lives alone and is lonely."
I bought a Hinge subscription and got 6 matches in a day. I matched with and am chatting with a Vietnamese girl too.
This is all so exhausting
things that make you go 'bleck.'
Once you go bleck, you don't go beckunnamednewbie13 wrote:
things that make you go 'bleck.'
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I let my temptations get the best of me again. I kissed the Muslim Moroccan substitute teacher. I made it very clear that the whole thing isn't going beyond that. And she accepted that.
I am on break right now. I am going to look up therapist.
I am on break right now. I am going to look up therapist.
imo beating yourself up over this stuff isn't going to do anyone any good, and won't help you do things differently if that's what you really want.