Gabe's pretty cool and he's set up a pretty interesting company with Valve. Aside from a few key managerial positions no-one has any set role at Valve, that's why the credits in Valve games are just an alphabetical list. It lets creatives just
do stuff and experiment with things which I imagine would be an awesome working environment. There would also be no need for office politics which is nice. They hire anyone who interest them who they think can bring something to the team be they programmers, designers, writers or anything else.
Feel sorry for Gabe? Hell no, he is in the rare position of getting to do what he loves with the people he wants to do it with while earning millions. Is he a massive geek? Sure. Does he look like an old lesbian? Yeah, sometimes. So what?
That being said the Peter Jackson route may be an idea for him:

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