BF2S Forums The BF2s girl-problems thread

the girl is 40, living at home with her mum, and filming bj videos with a guy who isn’t at all serious about her? yikes.

well in that case it sounds more feasible. a little depressing, in my opinion, but you two can do you two.

did you tell me the age of the other one to try and cover yourself or something? lol.

of course that is only going to be an equitable solution so long as she can keep seeing young bulls from dating apps too, right?

i can’t really understand open relationships or polyamory. but i don’t judge people who do. it’s just not part of my psychology or how i express care/passion for someone. if i’m serious, i’m committed and desire that commitment in return.

lol ok. so you’re going to be so impressive that she won’t possibly want to see anyone else, but you’re going to seek thrills elsewhere?

even at this point it’s a little icky and slippery with rationalisations. i guess you’re just going to have to ask her. but at some point the implicit asymmetry you’re proposing will create problems.

and yeah i know. everyone i ever met who was good at sex just had to write about it on reddit. it’s practically the first thing a secure stud does, normally within hours of doing the deed.

i think you have an incredibly distorted picture of your average person from spending so much time in the worst recesses of that site.

people ordinarily don’t feel compelled to farm updoots from strangers over their intimate life. a topic for therapy methinks.

you’ve posted like half a dozen smut threads in a humiliating tone about your recent lays. for what, honestly? the dopamine kick of reddit upvotes? did all those girls consent to that?

i've been to a sweaty techno night at a swinger's club before, actually. great fun. place was laid out like a rabbit's warren, lots of nooks and crannies where all sorts of weird and wonderful things were happening. a lot of famous berlin clubs are like that, too, with 'dark rooms'.

can't say i've ever been tempted by the swinging lifestyle but there's a pretty relaxed bunch of people.

but are you 'being a better partner' out of a (sub)conscious guilt or desire to keep her attention? maybe you enjoy her kindness and companionship, but you're upping the 'nice guy' stuff because you have a niggling sense that you're not respecting her fully?

i'm not saying the setup you want is impossible or all that unusual, but that it'll only work if it's healthy and not some tangled mess of compensatory behaviour.

you have some strange notions. 'dating up' and 'dating down' gives you license to treat someone as your property or side-chick? lol. i guess some people intuitively might think this way but the way you lay it out seems borderline manipulative. i would say that the sort of guy who purposefully dates women 'down' from him is either (a) insecure in some way or (b) has a high potential to be an abuser. purposefully dating someone you think is lucky to be with you? what the hell is that?

shouldn't you use the dating apps to find someone who 'matches' with you, none of this perceived up/down business in the pecking order, and whom you genuinely want to spend time with without lusting after other women?

it sounds like you're half presuming you can keep her in your pocket because she doesn't deserve a guy of your calibre.

Last edited by uziq (2022-11-03 09:40:35)

Maybe that is a very transactional relationship but she studied economics.

it's very east asian, marrying someone for the status and material comforts, and finding your satisfactions elsewhere. you might just be onto something. still anathema to my western individual way of thinking, though. i'd rather have a partner who is simultaneously a best-friend and highly attractive to me. there's enough women out there for that to be a good possibility. this whole transactional thing seems a bit cynical, even desperate, for someone our age, no? but hey, you're looking to get laid and you're in a hurry.

i go through periods of sowing wild oats and sleeping around a lot, but then i'll happily be buckled down in a long-term relationship for 5 years. it really depends so much on the circumstances and the people you surround yourself with.

i really think nowadays that the quality (meaning attraction+passion+deep connection) of sex >>> the quantity, any day. i could have meaningless ONS 4 times a week here but it wouldn't be much better than the dopamine kick of jerking off or having a few beers. there's the 'thrill of the chase' element with each new person, sure, but that seems a little jejune in one's 30s. how many times do you need the easy validation of being able to pick up women?

Last edited by uziq (2022-11-03 10:02:23)

there is no achievement for sleeping around in the dating apps era. it wasn't even particularly hard pre-dating apps.

a thirsty dog will drink from dark waters ...

No, you don't want that. I wish I could delete Steam achievements. One pops up while I'm in the middle of playing some total overhaul mod, I'm like wtf use is that. At least with no value attached, less chance of spyware searching your game for mods so it can delete your account.

Who has time to max all that, and the joke and hidden achievements anyway? Some games couldn't go like a week without adding another dozen of the things.

Every time Northgard releases more DLC there's like a bajillion more achievements, some of which are like "win a thousand games as this faction." Each game can take hours. I think Company of Heroes 2 has more achievements than there are US congressman. One of them I think you have to disable and steal a tank in a mission. But it's a complete crapshoot on whether a shot will disable or explode a tank. I had a save game with an enemy tank on low health, but it's a kill no matter how many times I reload. I don't understand how that works. Is it seeded? Do I have to replay it from scratch every time? It's an endurance scenario, ugh.

I would have to be a Korean stereotype to proceed. Or Philippines, "still at the computer desk with flood waters up to my ass" level of dedication to gaming. So yeah, just no.

SuperJail Warden wrote:

I love it when an achievement pops up in an area you are trying to click in a strategy game.

The easy achievements just shouldn't exist. "Launch the game." "Complete the tutorial." "Earn 10 coins." It's spam at the bottom right of my hud. Syncing with both steam and uplay overlays? Leave me alone.

Last edited by unnamednewbie13 (2022-11-03 21:26:31)

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