BF2S Forums Whats your opinion on marriage?

Yea, and one person can take everything in a divorce and leave the other person on the street

oberst_enzian wrote:

Marriage is a patriarchal anachronism that will be replaced as an institution during this century, in direct corrolation with the decline of religion as an ideological state apparatus (at least in the West).

I somewhat agree.  I don't know how long it will take to go away, but a century my be enough.  It is indeed a religious relic.  An overpriced, over commercialized relic. 

When I got married, it was funny how many people actually questioned us about the fact that we reworded our vows, removing things like God and OBEY.  Lots of both families were just glad we were no longer going to be living in sin. 

My wedding cost a damned fortune, and for what?  All we really did was repeat a tradition that held no real meaning to my wife and me.  We'd been together 2.5 years at that point, so it's wasn't like olden times where we would finally move in together and start producing babies like good little Christians.  Still, we were young, and both sets of parents...well....parents live to see  their kids get married and produce grandchildren.  At that time in life, we didn't think of it as more than something that you're supposed to do when you're in love.  Like I said, we were young.

Our marriage is going on ten years now, and still no grandchildren.  I guess they've finally come to terms with us only having grandcats and grandfishies.  No regrets though.  We were young and it isn't like we're unhappy.  Still, we talk about it sometimes and still wonder why we did it.  We could've had one hell of a honeymoon on 12k or so.

On a side note, we've long felt that marriage turned out to be a great way to save money as college students.  We suddenly became a very very poor family, and the grants and tax break were nice.  We could have even got welfare (we didn't).  I recommend it to you soon-to-be collegiates out there.  It's just sad that a peice of paper makes that much difference (This time I'm making fun of marriage, not college degrees.  That's for another thread).


I've lost my train of thought on this, but typed too much to just delete it.

Yea!!!

<{SoE}>Agamemnar wrote:

B.Schuss wrote:

well, to begin with, marriage has always been a religious concept, and the benefits one receives from his government for marrying are only testament (sic) to the non-existent separation of church and state.

Why should I receive a tax break from my government because I am married ? What makes married people so much more valuable for the nation ? The ( most likely ) answer: children, i.e. future taxpayers and soldiers.

It is vitally important for every nation to ensure its own existence. A sufficient rate of birth is the most important prerequisite for that, and since married couples will most likely also have children, it is only logical for the nation to promote marriage ( aka family values ) and give benefits to those who get married.

That how I see it, at least...

Agamemnar wrote:

Marriage promotes familial stability...

it does ? why are so many couples getting a divorce then ?  If the relationship doesn't work, it doesn't work, wether you are married or not.

If you came from a mediteranean family with the same values as mine (Italian), you would understand. I don't expect you to.


My parents are DIVORCED... and it is a shame. Two families were seperated as a result. I will not make the same mistake.

Mine are too..

So, does this mean you are not going to get married in the first place ? Or are you simply not going to get divorced, whatever the situation ?

You know, with your G/F being considerably older than you, this is going to become an issue sooner than you might think ( marriage, that is. Not divorce ).

I wouldn't advise it without being sure, I myself thought I would never get married but the girl I have now is starting to change my mind, she is my true counterpart , & everyday just reafirms that.

KtotheIMMY wrote:

Ahh marriage. At 22 I've been married twice and divorced once. I have nothing further to say.

Ha! me too!

The divorce was a hit to my heart and life; didn't care about the ex-wife; but she took my pride and joy -- my child.

Now happily married, for the last time married. I've found out you have to be a Team.

I believe that marriage is a wast of 10,000+ dollars and its shogunistic and ect.

I think its stupid how modern day society obsesses with marriage

Plus, the only reason why everyone has a romantic partner is because society brainwashen them from birth

And lots of people live OK lives with an obsession with someone, and I'm not nesesarily that obsessed with Paris Hilton, but not entirerly none-obsessed

And its evil how little girls are brainwashed into dreaming about their wedding

Last edited by Xaritix (2006-03-19 10:30:03)

What? Huh? What do you mean?

Lets see here...last week lol!

actually, this morning at like 1:00 PM

Marriage is what you make it.  I got married last year aged 25.  I like being married, and wearing the ring, but I would take my relationship just as seriously whether or not we were married.  I wouldn't have cared if she hadn't taken my name, and nothing about our marriage was religious, expensive or traditional. 

Can you help me out with what you mean by 'shogunistic', it appears to be a word you made up.  Perhaps you can disambiguate this for me using this list.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shogun_%28 … guation%29

I hope you don't mean marriage reminds you of the boss from the NES version of Ninja Turtles, because if you do then you are right, you will never get married.

Thats because "every little girl dreams about her wedding", which is a bunch of crap

Last edited by Xaritix (2006-03-20 21:57:00)

I know that there are things that are benefical with marrage.  There is more the physical thinks, like taxes, and children.  There are some emotical things that can not be described.  Xaritix, you seem like a person that is very depressed, or you do not like yourself a lot.  Drop the Paris Hilton "crush" you stated that you are 18, and you are to old to think like that.  This may be the reason you think marriage is "every little girls dream".  It is natural for women to dream about someone that they can spend the rest of their life with.  You stated that you think it is wrong to have the woman take the man's name, there are cases where that is vise versa.  (I know my wife was glad to take my last name)  Also, it marriage was a religious thing, then it would be practiced in only one faith, not multiple ones.  Marriage helps a society grow, and be stable emotional, since there are more single parent families, I had a friend who lived with his dad only, there have been increases in crime, and unstable people, IMO.