SuperJail Warden wrote:
Have you given any thought to the possibility that some force, be it whatever you want to call it, it pushing you and the Asian girl together? I am not talking about just the Tinder algorithm. Like, where did you get the idea that Korea was where you wanted to go? What gave you the idea that you needed to leave the U.K.?
strictly, no. i’ve wanted to live in a foreign country for most of my 20s but have had to keep a tight orbit around my family and friends. my best friend moved to korea straight after university and spent his 20s moving from place to place: he said korea was his favourite by quite a margin (and he’s not a ‘korea boo’ anything like that).
i mean, if you’re going to move away as an experiment or experience or whatever, the list of viable countries is not that long if you want to maintain modern-city living. japan and korea are going to appear on every list.
korean girls are stunning. it has like the highest beauty standards (and biggest cosmetics industry) of like anywhere. it’s hard to find a korean who isn’t well-dressed and concerned with their appearance to some degree. no surprises a red-blooded male will get tangled with a few.
the likelihood of the above story is incredibly rare and does make me laugh. it’s quite astonishing. but i’m not being guided to another country by god for the sake of one girl. it’s a plan i’ve had on the back burner for the better part of a decade.
why do i want to leave the U.K. or live in another country? i don’t know, i think this is quite a strange question for a european, where perhaps most americans are incurious by contrast. the desire to escape my known environment and culture? to get outside the box for a while? to experience a totally different life for a bit before i choose where, and in what fashion, to settle down? to challenge myself? or, from another angle: the fact the U.K. has been a depressing place to be these last few years? feelings of decline? no-deal brexit and poor prospects? stagnant wages? looming recession? generational apathy? or, more personally: the fact i’ve had to sacrifice and suspend so many of my own ambitions in my 20s, the fact i’ve lived in suspended grief over my brother, etc?
i mean, just on a basic level, it seems crazy to me that someone wouldn’t want to move away for at least a phase of their life. it’s a story and trajectory as old as the homeric epic. wanderlust, man!
besides, everyone knows that conatus is the principle
of the universe.
Last edited by uziq (2020-12-17 22:43:36)